The lesson in Oprah snapping back on Twitter

Because what you ain’t about to do is talk all over her and think you can get away with it. Now some may say that Oprah is bigger and better than that, and should have acted accordingly. But there’s a powerful lesson in what she did there.

We all have our #SpiritSpeaks moments, particularly when we wanna say something but Spirit shakes her head no. I’m sure Oprah has been getting plenty of flak for what she hasn’t done. In spite of everything she has done, and in spite of everything that you have done and will do, someone will always have something to say. And it’s not for us to retort every single time. You don’t have to explain shit. 

We also, however, have moments when we must speak. When our gut, heart and mind says let it rip. And at that point, you CANNOT worry about what people will think about you. You have a responsibility to yourself to speak your truth. And that’s what Oprah’s snap back said here. Whether it’s your supervisor, client, mama, husband, best friend, or maybe you have a social media mosquito of your own. 

When should you speak up?

Ultimately, the decision is yours. However, whenever you find yourself not wanting to speak out of fear of what may happen (disturbing the peace, looking bad, not being understood, etc.), then you are then muffling your intuition. Our intuition is our internal GPS, serving to guide and protect us spiritually and emotionally. While you don’t hear Mama Intuition speak, you do feel her; you’ll just know. I talk about this more in my upcoming 31-day self-study guide on communing more authentically with Spirit. 

When was the last time you bit your tongue? When you so badly wanted to say what the fuck was your mind, but swallowed the words instead? Where were you? Who were those digested syllables intended for?

Around this time last year, I was diagnosed with two disorders at once: adjustment disorder and hypothyroidism. Adjustment disorder, in short, means you’ve gone through a number of life adjustments that you power-drove through instead of taking time to process and, if necessary, release. I’d never done either. I hadn’t even really talked about it, which is where the thyroid disorder came in (understanding that speaking our truth is directly related to our throat chakra). 

So while I thought that all was well, in actuality, all was suppressed. I needed to renegotiate terms with my top-paying client, for example, but feared the what-ifs. I was long overdue for a woman-to-woman with my mother, but feared disturbing the peace. I needed to reintroduce myself, if you will, to my husband, but feared he wouldn’t understand. 

Though aware of Audre’s warning that your silence won’t protect you, and of Zora’s that if you’re silent about your pain, they’ll kill you and say you enjoyed it, I didn’t think they applied to me. Now I know better. Biting my tongue was only fucking me up inside. Whenever you follow how you want to feel or what you want to say with “but,” then you’re muffling your intuition.

What say you? On Oprah, on you, or whatever else? 

And about that self-study guide, it’s a little daring, I’ll admit. It’s designed for women who aren’t afraid of cursing when communicating with God. If that’s you, or if you’re interested in further exploring the subject, then drop your email here for updates and first dibs on the release.